The psychology of who we are in life…Are we Parent or Child, Critical or Nurturing and what does that mean….

Having been through a life and journey of journeys, of which I know is unique to me, but not unique in nature and to you, I have found some really amazing literature on Transactional Analysis (TA). What exactly is TA?

“Transactional Analysis is a post-Freudian psychological concept that suggests the ego states that are formed are formed after birth. When we enter the world, we watch how people interact with us and that defines for us the states we align ourselves with. Typically, our choices are made based on how we determine the successes of each approach.”

Now I had a rough high school career in my first two years. I had massive abuse and trauma and then morphed into an ego state that was formed in my growing up to that point. I had a father that was in the military and wasn’t around much. I felt a sense of abandonment coupled with that fact that this larger than life hero was almost impossible to reach out to and have a deep authentic relationship with. My mother just followed in the grand macho war hero that my father was. The behaviours that ensued were a lack of engagement and communication in a true authentic way, which in turn went unnoticed well into adulthood. Seeing the behaviours of my father, made me believe that being the…